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Procrastination is Not a Virtue. Diligence Is.

Life is hard.  There is no denying that.  But that is no excuse.  I’m not talking perfection.  But all too often we rationalize and deceive ourselves well.  Our hearts are most deceptive of all.  Our minds are clouded sometimes by our own pride, selfishness and self-centeredness.  OH the sin nature.  But all is not lost.  Look to the Lord to lead you, give you strength and seeking His glory, you will not look to yourself.  Look  to yourself and you will see all that fails.  He is the only reason you can achieve anything.  His grace is over the good and the bad.  Humble yourself in the sight of the Lord.  There is nowhere you can go to escape.  He is ever present and your Help in need.  Seek Him and all His righteousness.  His grace is sufficient for you.

Lessons in Feminine Godliness, noted#1

Sure, I struggle with this.  I’m not quiet but I have my moments.  I seek the gentle spirit but sometimes I’m rough around the edges.  But this is my Lord’s will, that I submit to a blameless life.  It’s a good thing I don’t live it on my own, but my Savior has died for a wretch like me.  I will persevere.  I will be longsuffering.  I will endure.  I will pursue.  So help me God.

Sex, Romance and the glory of God, C J Mahaney

Men, this is a book I recommend.  The man knows what he’s talking about.  He’s got it down.  What a great and awesome testimony of love for his bride.  Much of what he said is right on.  Lots of good practical advice.  It’s no surprise that his wife feels loved.  It’s always encouraging to hear how a man grows in wisdom.  Mr. Mahaney’s pursuit of his wife is commendable.

For a woman (men too if they admit it), anyone for that matter, part of relations is “feeling” loved, not just the objective of being loved.  It really does take a balance of both.  Like it or not, a woman loves with her emotion (or heart) first.  Her bodily expressions are an extension of that.  A man tends to expresses his loves with his body while his emotional state lags behind.  We all need balance.  Amen?

Sex is a holy act reserved in it’s rightful context.  For the Christian, the marriage bed (where sex is birthed) is to be kept undefiled.  (Oh, I think I blushed a little.)  Read the book.  I don’t need to reiterate what’s been well said already.  Besides that, I’m a little tired right now anyway.

The book is short, an easy read for sure.  I’m a slow consumer of words.  I’m one of those people who can read sentences over and over and not know what I just read.  I can read something and totally have my mind on something else.  I would say that’s talent but I may be redirecting a little here.  Anyway, if I had the uninterrupted time, I think I could have finished it in a day.  Maybe within 5 hours.  For you more concentrated readers, you should be able to finish it in no time.  I read almost half the book in a couple of hours.  That’s saying a lot for me!

Married or single-in-hopes-of-love-one-day, you can learn from this book, and the man.  I hope you learn a lot.  You can prepare yourself.  And that you can bring glory to God in your romantic, sexual marriage!

Banana Chocolate Chip Cranberry Bread Recipe using Alternative Flour Mix

I ventured into new territory in recent weeks.  I have not been diagnosed with celiac or have jumped on the gluten-free bandwagon or anything but in my fleeting current OCD, guilty-health-conscious-neurotic season (if that makes any sense at all), I decide to try some alternative flours.  Here’s a new recipe I threw together after reading a bit on alternative flours.  Granted this uses a little of regular white flour, I literally just mixed this stuff together and it turned out pretty good.  Why don’t you try it and see?  Let me know what you think.  I bet it wouldn’t make much difference if you replace the white flour with another flour.  But then again, I’m no scientist or chemist and I certainly am not looking to give you the chemical breakdown as to what might happen if you do.  It might flatten the bread a bit.  It might make it more moist or fluffier if you use more rice flour.  I really don’t know at this point.  It just came out good the fist time.  It past my kids’ palette.  They didn’t notice anything different.  Neither did our bible study group.  Also, I’m an “eyeball it” type cook, so I estimate a lot.  A pinch here, a pinch there.  A scoop of this and that.  I tried to be aware of what my measurements were this time so I could duplicate and share it if it came out good.  I think that’s the full list.  I hope it’s right.  Hey, it’s a free recipe, right? It’s all trial and error for me.

4 medium to large ripe bananas

3 eggs

1/2 c. melted butter (or coconut oil)

2/3 c. sugar

1 heaping tsp each baking soda and baking powder

1/2 c. each white flour, wheat flour, rice flour and soy flour

1 c. chocolate chips

1.5 c. fresh cranberries (or maybe you can try 1 c. dried)

Mash the bananas. Mix in next 3 ingredients. Then the baking soda and powder. Then the flours all at once. Then the chocolate chips.  Lastly the cranberries. I guess if you are using dried cranberries, you can add them at the same time as the choco chips.  Mix and split pour into 2 loaf pans.  bake 350 for 50-60 minutes. check for browning at about 45 minutes. If it’s too brown already and the middle still looks raw, lightly cover with foil and continue to bake and check every 5 minutes until center is done.  Just like any other quick bread.  And done. hope it’s good!

If I were ahead of my game, I would have taken a picture of my bread before it was eaten to complement this post .  But alas, I fall short, again.  Maybe next time.

Why Stay at Home?

Recently, I decided to call a family member to catch up b/c I hadn’t been in touch in a long time. These were some questions posed to me: “so do you have a job yet? so all you do is stay at home? and do what? take care of your kids? that’s it? you’re not going to do anything else with your life? don’t you want a job and do something else with your life? don’t you want to help your husband make money to take care of the family and make a better life for yourself? well, if that’s what makes you happy.”  Only family can talk to each other like that and still remain on talking terms. Seriously.

Thankfully my rest in Christ frees and secures me from such ideas or comments. I have no shame in the world knowing that I’m an ‘at home wife and mom’. What is this world coming to? Are gone the days of value of the home? Who else should be taking care of my kids, my husband, and my home? Too often is the world telling us to just “outsource”.  “Go ahead, give yourself a break. You deserve it. You don’t have to do it. Just pay someone. You’re better than that.”  Really?  Are you really “too good for that” or are you just too lazy and ungrateful?

Now, I’m not totally dissing getting help and assistance sometimes, working outside the home  and taking a break now and then, but it should all come with discretion and boundaries.   This notion that the home is the last place woman should be anymore is disgraceful.  Where do you go when you want to rest?  Home.  Where do you go to find peace?  Home.  Where do you go when you’re done vacationing?  Home.  Dorothy said it right, “There’s no place like home.”  Ain’t that the truth.  Families- do what you can for women to value their time at home. When we believe the lies we are fed, everyone telling us we ‘deserve’ this and that, we can become bitter thinking we aren’t getting what is rightfully ours when it is all about the perspective.  When feelings are conjured up about what we “should” have, what we are  “entitled” (the latest buzz), and don’t get it, it’s easy to conclude that it’s just “not fair”.  Oh please. Get off your high horse and embrace the nitty gritty of life and be thankful that you have hands to clean, eyes to see what you’re cleaning, legs to get you around that nice shelter you call home and remember that  you aren’t living in a cardboard box eating leftovers out of the trash. Give thanks for the running water that comes out from the twist of a knob. Be thankful that you have choices. You got problems?  Oh, you didn’t find the right paint color for your kitchen walls?  Poor you. Let’s pass on the pity party. Do what you need to do and be thankful you have the resources to get them done. You can go to the store, a “Dollartree” even, for things those people who worked to make them probably couldn’t afford- for $1. plus tax. Oh, you got pepperoni instead of sausage on your pizza order? Chill out. It’s not the end of the world. Count your blessings.

I have taught my kids from the beginning that they eat what they are served and be thankful for it. Result is they like most things. There are things they don’t like but they eat them anyway (moderation may be granted) and it doesn’t take them all day to do it.  I do not take well to picky eaters who complain and whine about food.  Eat what you’re served and give thanks for it.   I was raised that way and I’m thankful for that.  Yes, thankfully, we also have choices in food selection.  Freedom to choose. But what if we didn’t?  Would the world be a cruel place?  Would God be mocked?

My husband and I had to laugh when John MacArthur said he should have spanked his kids harder for ungratefulness than anything else. But in all seriousness, we are spoiled. Are we raising a spoiled generation? A generation who cares too much about material wealth and appearance than the heart?  I think this is a heart issue. Ungratefulness will breed discontentment.  And discontentment will breed complaining. And etc…

Part of staying at home means loving my family; means feeding my family; means cultivating a nice home for us to dwell together in joy, teaching and training the future generation (my kids) a right perspective about love, discipline, thankfulness, manners, truth, honesty… among many things. My list can go on for miles. Maybe one day I could finish this list. Maybe.

Ok, I’m not saying I’m perfect at this or anything. I’m a jack of many trades. I’m not sure if I’m master of anything. Surely not. Pursuing and enduring in perseverance towards the goal of serving the Lord through all these different roles is a challenge I’ll admit to.  But it is not to say it’s impossible. I’m going to plug what we Christians shouldn’t so much view as a cliche, but risking that, here it is: nothing is impossible with God. I have to constantly remind myself that a big part of it is [perspective]. Leaning on and trusting God is number one.

HEY WORLD!  I’M A STAY AT HOME WIFE AND MOTHER. You got a problem with that? Too bad. I was born for this.  God told me so. (Ooo, did I just dare say that!?)

My name is Mimi and I approve this message.

My Sweet Corn Cake Mess

When I got married, my husband would tell me about this really great thing that came with the meals at the Mexican restaurants he ate at in California.  In pursuit of my husband’s joy of eating, I  researched the thing and found a recipe for it.  The Mexican name I found for it is ‘Tomalito”.   The ones from the restaurant are more runny.  When I look for recipes, I look at several different ones, then adjust according to my liking to make it my own, so the way I make it is thicker.  I’ve made it many times when we’ve had company over for dinner and have always had positive responses so I thought I’d share what I do.

I often cook by ‘eyeballing’, so I apologize that this recipe may not be perfected.  I just encourage you to experiment to your taste, using this as your guide.  This is my version, although even I don’t always follow the recipe to the tee.  I call it my Sweet Corn Cake Mess.

1 stick butter (1 cup)

1 c. cornmeal or masa

1 c. flour

3/4 c. sugar

1/2 water

1 can cream corn

1 tsp. baking powder & salt

1/2 c. milk or cream

The easiest method (I use now):

Mix all ingredients in a large, microwavable bowl (doesn’t have to be perfectly mixed).  Microwave for 5 minutes at a time.  At the end of each 5 minute interval, remove and mix and fold with a big fork.  Repeat this about 4-5 times, or until all ingredients are mixed well to the consistency of really thick and clumpy pudding.  All the flour and cornmeal should be blended well with no white flour residue.

More fancy method (I used to use):

Preheat your oven to 400.  Melt butter and sugar on medium/low heat in pan on the stove.  Turn off heat.  Mix in the rest of the ingredients.  Pour batter into a big enough pan that will fit on top of another pan of water.  The pan of water should be filled up about an inch or so just to surround the bottom of the baking dish of the tomalito batter.  The water is to create moisture in baking so the batter doesn’t get hard.  Bake for approximately 30-40 minutes, check and stirring every 10 minutes or so until the correct consistency is desired.

That’s it.  Pretty easy.  Enjoy!